There is one thing my flesh desires above all else: comfort. Now, many other desires (food, sleep, sex, entertainment) are present, but they are all driven by the urge to gain/regain comfort.
This, I believe, is the soul of pride (even sin, altogether). What is the desire for comfort but the desire to fulfill fleshly urges? In fact, what does it mean to have an urge? What is an urge, but a level of discomfort in lieu of some sort of fulfillment?
Now, that is not to say that urges are inherently “bad.” I would say some urges are quite righteous (particularly, urges placed upon the heart by some divine interference). Such urges would typically manifest in acts of charity. One would feel a level of discomfort until they acted upon said urge.
It is not always easy to discern “good” urges from “bad” urges. One general rule could help one discern: when that urge does not align with your moral compass, either your compass is broken or the urge is bad.
Well, I’m not sure if this settles anything for any readers. I hope this wasn’t too much of a waste of time.